On the Verge of Tears

Back in September of 2023, my partner Heidi and I traveled to Gloucester, Massachusetts for a wedding. Gloucester is a historic Cape Ann fishing town where rugged coastline, working harbor life, and a deep maritime heritage meet—everything shaped by the steady rhythms of the sea. While we were there, I slipped away for a while with my camera, drawn as I often am to old cemeteries. Oak Grove Cemetery is one of those places—a quiet, historic resting ground overlooking the harbor, where generations of Gloucester’s seafaring families are remembered among weathered stones and salt-laced winds.

Among the headstones stands a weeping angel holding a crucifix. It is unusually large, visible even from a distance, and unmistakably sorrowful. The child-angel appears on the verge of tears—her grief so palpable that I felt pulled toward her before I fully understood why.

In the way we often think about adulthood, there isn’t much space for visible sorrow. We learn, subtly and steadily, to set it aside—to replace tenderness with composure, feeling with a kind of practiced distance. The world’s suffering is constant, we remind ourselves, and to weep openly can seem out of place, even unsettling.

But the angel offers another way. She does not look away or grow accustomed to what she sees. She remains tender, undone by it all, grieving without hesitation or restraint. It is as if she mourns not only one life, but the whole fragile condition of being human. Standing watch through the years, she still cannot make peace with what unfolds before her. One hand rests against her chest, as though startled by sorrow, quietly calling others to stop and feel it too.

And perhaps she sees more clearly than we do. In a world shaped again and again by conflict and suffering, lament may be the more honest response. Beneath our efforts to harden ourselves, something softer persists—a deeper instinct that resists indifference and refuses to let go of care.

This small angel offers a quiet, insistent lesson: it is not our hardness that saves us, but our capacity to weep—because in allowing ourselves to feel the sorrow of the world, we keep alive the tender, human part of us that still cares, still responds, and still hopes for something more.

Playfulness in a Heavy World

Meditating with art offers a gentle alternative to the constant pull of 24/7 news and the heaviness it carries. Instead of being swept up in urgency or fear, we’re invited to slow down and rest our attention on something quiet and present. Simply looking—without needing to interpret or react—allows the nervous system to settle. In a world that can feel overwhelming, art becomes a place of refuge, reminding us that attention itself can be an act of balance, clarity, and quiet hope.

Lately, I’ve been spending time with the painting The Ball (1899) by Félix Vallotton, now held in the Musée d'Orsay. If you have a moment, you might pause here and look it up for yourself before reading on. A small child in a bright white dress moves across a sunlit lawn, following a vivid red ball, while two adults remain at the edges—present, but removed. There’s a quiet tension in the scene, as if the child stands between two realms: one of light, play, and immediacy, and another more distant, shadowed, and difficult to articulate.

I find myself wondering about the red ball. What is it, really? Perhaps it’s whatever keeps us alive to ourselves—what draws us into presence, curiosity, and play.

Somewhere along the way, many of us lose touch with that. We trade play for productivity, curiosity for concern, creativity for obligation. We begin to measure our lives by output rather than aliveness. And yet, the memory remains—those long afternoons of childhood when time opened, imagination took over, and joy required no justification. 

The original image I chose for this blog is a photograph I made at our local library, just before an exercise class began. It, too, carries the same invitation. My red ball is photography. My partner Heidi’s red ball is writing. Your red ball might be taking a painting class, gardening, or cooking. For Félix Vallotton, it was oil paint and canvas.

Find your red ball and return to it often. It may be one of the surest ways to navigate whatever difficult days lie ahead.

Learning to See in the Dark

One of my favorite painters is Ad Reinhardt.  In the final decade of his life, Reinhardt devoted himself to what he called his “black paintings.” At first glance, they appear entirely black. They now hang in places like the Museum of Modern Art and the Tate Modern, quietly waiting for those willing to linger. But he was never really painting “just black.”

If you stay with one of these paintings—long enough for your eyes to adjust and your mind to settle—something begins to emerge. Faint squares within squares. Subtle shifts of color: black touched with red, or blue, or green. Nothing reveals itself quickly. It takes patience.

I’ve come to recognize something similar in my own life, especially in periods of depression. At first, everything feels flat. Heavy. Undifferentiated. My instinct is to turn away—to distract, to fix, to escape. But Reinhardt’s work gently asks something else of me: to stay. To look again. 

And this feels especially true right now. We are living through a kind of shared darkness—the violence and suffering unfolding in the Middle East, and an economy that continues to weigh heavily on the middle class and the working poor. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, to shut down, to look away.

But what if, even here, we are invited to a different kind of seeing? Not passive acceptance, and not indifference, but a steady, courageous presence—the kind that allows us to remain human in the face of what is painful and complex, the kind that keeps the heart from hardening. 

When I stay—whether with a painting, my own inner life, or the state of the world—I begin, however faintly, to notice texture. Nuance. The possibility that even within darkness, something else is present.

I’m reminded of a photograph I chose to accompany this piece. Every time I go to visit my son, Jon, in Brooklyn, we inevitably find ourselves in a small movie house somewhere in lower Manhattan, watching a film he has recommended. On one occasion, the theater was nearly empty—just the two of us and one older gentleman seated a few rows ahead. As the room dimmed into darkness, I found myself wondering about him. What had brought him there? What was unfolding within him as he sat alone before the screen? What colors—hidden in the darkness, in the interplay between darkness and shadow—were quietly revealing themselves in that moment?

I find myself hoping that one day Jon and I might stand together before one of Reinhardt’s black paintings. He is, in many ways, more courageous and fearless than I am, and I would love to see what he sees—what reveals itself to him—as he lingers there, unafraid, in the depth of Reinhardt’s darkness. Perhaps, standing beside him, I might learn to see a little more clearly myself.

Reinhardt’s black paintings do not offer easy answers. But they do offer this quiet encouragement: do not turn away too quickly. Stay. Look again. There is more here than you think—and that “more,” however subtle, however slow to appear, makes all the difference.

The Tenzo’s Instruction: A Zen Story

About fifteen years ago, I spent a week at Zen Mountain Monastery, a Zen Buddhist monastery tucked into the Catskill Mountains in Mount Tremper, New York. The monastery is part of the Mountains and Rivers Order in the Soto Zen tradition, where meditation, simplicity, and mindful work are understood as expressions of awakening. In this tradition, ordinary activities—walking, cleaning, cooking—are practiced with the same attention as seated meditation.

The week I attended was a sesshin, an intensive period of practice. Our days began before sunrise and unfolded in long stretches of meditation that carried us well into the evening. But meditation was only part of the practice. Each of us was also given daily work—simple chores done carefully and in silence.

One morning I was assigned to the monastery kitchen.  My task was simple: slice a large bowl of onions. Like most Zen kitchens, the work was done quietly under the guidance of the Tenzo, the head cook of the monastery. In Zen tradition, the Tenzo’s role is not simply to prepare food but to care for the whole community through the mindful preparation of each meal.  A brief written note showed how the onions should be cut. The rest we were meant to learn by watching and paying attention.

So I picked up a knife and began. I thought I was doing a fairly good job until the Tenzo walked over, gently placed her hand on my shoulder, and whispered softly, “No, no… never that way.” Then she took the knife and showed me. Her movements were slow and graceful. The blade moved easily through the onion, and she placed each slice into the bowl with quiet care.

Then she whispered in my ear: “Be present to the onion. Listen to it. The farmer listens. The Tenzo listens. The student listens. The onion already knows how it wants to be cut. Books cannot teach this. Listen. The onion will tell you everything.”

Then she moved quietly on.  I returned to slicing. Around me, strangers and friends stood side by side, cutting onions, carrots, potatoes, and cabbage. Knives moving in steady rhythm. Hands working slowly and attentively. It was ordinary work. And yet it was beautiful. Simple. Almost perfect.

I have sliced many onions since that day. But every now and then, standing at my own kitchen counter with knife in hand, I remember the Tenzo’s quiet instruction.  “Listen.”

Because when we listen deeply, patiently—to an onion, to another person, to the moment before us—something in the world changes.  And often, something in us does too.

Originality: Returning to the Origin

This spring, I had the privilege of teaching ARTS/HHMN 220: Photopoetry at Salem College. As part of the course, the students shared an exhibit of their work in the Elberson Fine Arts Center—original photographs paired with original poems.

The exhibit was supported by a grant from the Educating Character Initiative at Wake Forest University and Lilly Endowment Inc., for which I am deeply grateful.

But what stays with me is not simply the exhibit itself. It is the way the students began to see. Because early on, we asked a simple question: What does it mean to be original? In most settings, originality is about being new, different, or impressive. There is often a quiet pressure to stand out, to produce something that hasn’t been seen before. But in this class, we explored something different.

The word original comes from the Latin origo—meaning beginning or source. To be original is not to be novel. It is to return to the source of seeing itself. That sounds simple, but it is not easy. Most of us have learned, often without realizing it, to perform—to make images we think others will like, to write in ways that sound a certain way, to shape experience into something recognizable or impressive.

But contemplative photography invites us in another direction—not toward performance, but toward presence. The practice is to see what is here before we name it, before we interpret it, before we try to make it meaningful. Color, texture, light, shadow— a moment, as it is. And something begins to shift.

When we try to be original, we often move away from direct experience. But when we simply attend—when we slow down enough to actually see—something authentic begins to appear. Not because we created it, but because we allowed it. Originality, in this sense, is not something we produce. It is what arises when we are fully present.

Each student sees from a different place—shaped by their life, their attention, their way of meeting the world. No one else stands where they stand. No one else sees in quite the same way. And when perception becomes clear and unforced, that difference naturally reveals itself—not as something new, but as something true.

Walking through the exhibit, what I encountered was not a collection of images trying to impress. It was something quieter than that—moments of alignment, places where seeing and being met seemed to touch.

A different kind of originality—one that does not announce itself, but simply is. And perhaps this is the invitation, not only for photography, but for our lives.

Sacred Seeing: A Contemplative Photography Retreat

September 8–11, 2026
Holy Cross Monastery West Park, NY

What if nothing is missing — except our presence?

This four-day contemplative photography retreat is an immersion in sacred seeing. Drawing from the contemplative photography tradition of Miksang (“good eye”), the ancient Christian practice of Visio Divina, and the reflective discipline of photopoetry, we gather at Holy Cross Monastery on the banks of the Hudson River to practice seeing with clarity and devotion.

Within the monastery’s steady rhythm of silence and prayer, we slow down enough to notice what has always been here: color before concept, form before story, light before language. We begin to trust direct perception — the simple, vivid flash that arises before commentary.

 Each day, participants will have the opportunity to create and submit images. Through gentle instruction and shared reflection, these practices refine not only how you experience the monastery grounds, but how you encounter the phenomenal world of your senses. The skills cultivated here extend beyond the retreat, quietly transforming how you move through daily life.

 Visio Divina deepens this work. We sit with images — both our own and those of others — as one might sit with a sacred text: receptive, patient, attentive. Photopoetry completes the arc, pairing image and word in a dialogue that reveals layers of meaning neither could uncover alone.

 No technical mastery is needed. A simple digital camera or smartphone will suffice. What is required is patience, presence, and a willingness to see what is already here.

 About the Retreat Leader

 Tim Auman is a contemplative photography instructor, certified mindfulness educator, spiritual director, and Associate of the Order of the Holy Cross. Based in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, he served for twenty years as the chaplain of Wake Forest University.

 He teaches contemplative photography at a school for visual art and at the college level, integrating Nalanda Miksang practice, mindfulness, and poetic reflection into his work. Through retreats, courses, and spiritual direction, Tim invites others to cultivate clarity, presence, and reverent attention.

 For Tim, photography is not primarily about self-expression, but about relationship — a way of meeting reality with attentiveness and care, and discovering beauty in the ordinary, the mundane, and the everyday. He and his partner, Heidi, are the parents of four beautiful children.

A Softer Kind of Power

Each time I step back from CNN, MSNBC, and the restless chorus of news feeds, a quiet truth rises to the surface. What so often parades as power—conservative, moderate, progressive alike—carries the scent of exhaustion. The louder the claim, the more frantic the gesture, the more clearly its hollowness reveals itself. Noise masquerades as authority; force pretends to be strength.

And yet, beneath the headlines, wisdom moves softly. It appears in the courage to listen without rehearsing a reply, in eyes that meet the world with kindness rather than suspicion, in a smile that does not seek advantage, in prophetic words spoken sparingly, seasoned with compassion, and offered without demand.

This is a different kind of power. It does not rush or shout. It is anchored in Spirit—ancient, spacious, and quietly unstoppable. Nothing finally resists it.

How freeing it is to discover we do not need to posture like politicians or perform like CEOs of towering companies. Spirit-driven power has nothing to defend and nothing to prove. It is not measured by success or failure; wisdom knows both are passing weather.

Do you know such people—the ones whose presence slows the room, whose silence teaches, whose attention feels like a gift? If they are absent from your life, seek them. They rarely announce themselves, but the world leans toward them.

And what of the wisdom resting within you? Buried perhaps beneath urgency and fear, but still alive, still breathing. It waits in the quiet, inviting you to listen for the sound of what is most genuine in you. When trusted, this Spirit-rooted knowing does not clamor for attention; it gives birth to quiet wonders, again and again.

I confess I am no longer confident that our politicians in Washington are capable of leading us out of the mess they have helped create. But this is not a counsel of despair. Even now, wise and courageous people—diverse in voice, grounded in Spirit—are finding their footing, claiming their authority, and carrying a message of equality and compassion into the streets. A softer kind of power is already on the move. The only remaining question is this: have you found your voice yet?

The Logic of Violence

I remember the first time I held a gun. I was at Boy Scout camp, a line of boys standing shoulder to shoulder, each of us handed a .22 rifle—cool metal pressed into uncertain hands, the strange gravity of power resting between our fingers. I’ve never owned a gun, yet I still remember how it felt: the illusion that strength can be found in something harder, heavier, sharper, and the subtle way danger dresses itself as certainty.

But that promise is hollow. What we hold too long begins to hold us. When we clutch weapons against our chests, the logic of violence settles into our bones and seeps into our souls, reshaping our hearts in the very image of what we fear. There may be moments—tragic, unavoidable moments—when violence must be met with force. And yet every victory born of force of arms leaves a wound that never fully closes, not in the world, and not in us.

Across this country, those wounds have been opened wide. In Minnesota this month, communities have been grieving the deaths of Renée Good, a 37-year-old mother of three, and Alex Pretti, a 37-year-old intensive care nurse—two lives lost in the long, trembling shadow cast by fear, force, and confusion. Their names are spoken in vigils and carried on signs, not as symbols, but as reminders: real people, real families, real absences that will not be filled.

Even those who arrive in our streets wearing uniforms—ICE, Border Patrol, any instrument of force—often carry out tactics that are cruel, dehumanizing, and terrifying. Families are shattered. Communities are traumatized. Fear is used as a tool of governance. And yet, even here, we are not dealing with monsters. We are dealing with human beings caught inside systems that reward obedience over conscience, efficiency over mercy, and power over truth—systems that slowly train ordinary people to participate in what, on their own, they might once have recognized as unthinkable.

I understand those whose suffering led them to take up arms. History is full of such stories. Sometimes I feel that old gravity myself—the desire for clean lines and final answers. But I no longer believe the world is healed that way. The work of saving what is still human in us will not be won by weapons. It will be won by patience, by stubborn tenderness, by a loyalty to a wisdom deeper than our parties, our ideologies, our arguments about who is right and who is wrong.

And yes—there are times when love demands everything. Martin Luther King Jr., John Lewis, Fannie Lou Hamer, and so many others understood this. They taught us that some truths can only be carried by bodies willing to be broken rather than by hands trained to break others—and that this, too, is a form of courage deeper than violence will ever know.

Anger at injustice and tyranny is natural. It should be felt. But it must never be the guiding force of our actions. It must be taught to kneel. It must be refined into compassionate, focused action. This is how we resist without becoming what we oppose. This is how we stand firm without forgetting who we are. And perhaps, just perhaps, this is how we might repair a fragile democracy without shattering it in the process.

How to Be an Elder in a Time Like This

If you have been paying any attention to the protests in Minneapolis, you have probably noticed something easy to miss but hard to forget: so many of those in the streets are young adults. Yes, there are more older bodies than one might expect—people like me, grateful and a little stiff—but the great current of these peacemakers is roughly the age of my children. They arrive with cardboard signs and open faces, with a courage that has not yet learned the language of resignation. They see with eyes not yet fully trained to accept the world as it is. They cannot quite say, “We’ve always done it this way,” or “We tried that once and it didn’t work,” and because of that, they still know—deep in their bones—that history is unfinished and that the future is not yet sealed.

This has always been so. Again and again, when a society grows too accustomed to its own compromises, the young become its conscience. It was young people who sat at segregated lunch counters, who rode buses into danger, who marched in Birmingham, who filled the streets during the Vietnam War, who helped awaken the modern environmental movement, who refused silence during the AIDS crisis, who stood up after Parkland, and who continue to insist—again and again—that dignity, safety, and belonging are not privileges but birthrights. They rise because they have more to gain—their whole lives stretch out before them—and because they have less to lose, not yet fully invested in the careful furniture of existing power.

And this courage is not confined to our own borders. Even now, in Iran, young people—led in such a courageous and visible way by young women—walk into their own streets knowing the cost may be imprisonment or death, simply to claim the most elemental human freedoms: to live, to choose, to breathe without fear. Their bravery should slow us down. It should return us to reverence. It should remind us that history is not something that merely happens to us, but something that is being written, line by line, by ordinary bodies willing to stand where love and truth require.

So to my older friends, I want to say this as gently as I can: listen. Listen not to correct, not to manage, not to translate their hope into your own familiar categories, but to be changed. Their wisdom does not come wrapped in certainty, but in a deeper remembering—of what we once knew and what we have gradually learned to forget.

And to all the mansplainers out there: please, please resist the temptation to offer an unsolicited explanation about someone else’s future. Sometimes the most faithful thing an elder can do is to become quiet enough to recognize that a new and necessary wisdom is already learning how to speak.

A World Without “Us and Them”

There is no real room for “us” and “them” in a world shaped by compassion and equanimity. And yet, almost without noticing, we fall into that language. We draw lines. We sort and label. We decide, often from fear, that someone else is the problem—that they are deluded, dangerous, unpatriotic, or even evil. And once we do that, it becomes surprisingly easy to stop seeing a person at all, and to see only a story we are telling about them.

This way of seeing is far from the wisdom of Martin Luther King, Jr., Dorothy Day, Thich Nhat Hanh, or Narges Mohammadi—each of whom, in different ways and at great personal cost, chose again and again to refuse the easy comfort of dehumanization. Their lives remind us that justice and compassion are not rivals, and that how we see is already how we act.

When two opposing forces meet—whether on the streets of Minneapolis or on the floor of the House of Representatives—the one who has no enemy carries a different kind of strength. Not louder. Not harder. But deeper.

A movement with no enemy can sound naïve. Don’t we need someone to blame, someone to hold the shape of our anger? And yet, is it possible to resist unjust systems, habits, and structures without turning living, breathing people into symbols of everything we fear? Each time we do that, something in us quietly closes.

Perhaps the real work is not to defeat anyone at all, but to stay human in a world that keeps inviting us to forget. Perhaps the only thing that truly needs undoing is the way of seeing that divides the world into worthy and unworthy, into us and them. And perhaps compassion is nothing more—and nothing less—than the daily practice of laying down our stories long enough to see one another again.

“Bowl Games, Better Angels, and the Occasional Bruised Ego”

Is there something to be said about our better angels and our yearly obsession with college football bowl season—this grand American ritual where we rejoice in victory and secretly (or not so secretly) delight in the downfall of our perceived enemies? I think so. I’ll admit it right up front: I’m genuinely excited that the teams I pull for—Wake Forest and Duke—are heading into postseason play. I’m as susceptible as anyone to that little jolt of pride, that impulse to shout at the TV, or to believe, for about three glorious seconds, that my cheering actually influences the outcome. It’s all part of the fun.

But beneath the joy of it all, there’s a cultural hum that’s harder to ignore. The idea that “We’re number one!” isn’t just a chant—it’s practically a worldview. “Kicking ass and taking names” has become our unofficial motto, not just in sports but in business, politics, international relations, and even family life. Winning and losing have become our default measuring sticks for almost everything.

And yet this is entirely contrary to what Jesus taught, what the Buddha taught, what Laozi whispered across centuries. None of them ever said, “Blessed are the champions,” or “Crush your opponents,” or “The Way belongs to those with superior red-zone efficiency.” They pointed instead toward compassion, humility, and interconnectedness—things that rarely make the highlight reel but consistently make life more humane.

So perhaps we’d be wise to hold off on the victory parades and the field storming (fun as they are). Maybe we pause and notice what arises in us when our team wins, or when our political “side” triumphs. Do we feel joy? Of course. But is there something else lurking beneath it? A flicker of contempt for the “other” team or group? A quiet (or loud) wish to see them humbled or humiliated?

Our better angels invite us to notice that—and maybe even smile at ourselves a little. We’re human. We get swept up. But we don’t have to stay swept up.

And here’s the real kicker: it isn’t far-fetched to imagine a world where everybody gets to “win”—not with trophies, but with enough food, adequate health care, meaningful work, safety, dignity, and belonging. Everyone. No exceptions. Not even that one team you just can’t stand.

So cheer for the Deacs and the Blue Devils. I will. Let the games be fun, not fuel. And may our enthusiasm stay rooted in joy—not in the illusion that someone else must lose for us to fully live.

Your Quiet Radiance

I don’t think of myself as elderly—though if experience is any guide, I suspect others might see me differently. My body, still reasonably healthy for someone approaching 68, has begun to reveal its transient nature in small, unmistakable ways. Don’t worry, I’m not about to give you a tour of my MyChart ailments.

There was a time when I took my days of ease and energy for granted. Now I’m watching the whole sweep of life move with astonishing speed. And your days, too, are unfolding just as quickly. The challenge—maybe even the invitation—is to find a place inside ourselves where this truth doesn’t frighten us. Those who grow in wisdom learn to bend with life’s unpredictability rather than resist it.

So today, soften your shoulders. Let yourself breathe. Notice how the tides of your life swell and recede, and let balance find you as you move with them.

No matter how old we are, life can feel chaotic—spinning quickly, asking more of us than we think we can give. But beneath all that motion there is a quiet center. Place your hands over your lower abdomen for a moment. Take a slow, easy breath. That point just below your navel is the body’s natural center of gravity, a reminder that a steady wisdom has always lived within you, waiting just under the surface. Return to that place whenever life feels sharp, frightening, or overwhelming.

This deeper wisdom—your true essence—doesn’t depend on the age of your body or the chatter of your mind. You are more than the shifting forms you’ve been taught to identify with. You are something mysterious and resilient, something extraordinary that cannot be reduced to labels or limitations.

Hafiz once wrote, “I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.”

That is exactly what this inner center reveals. Beneath every storyline, beneath every fear or doubt, there is a wisdom that has never dimmed. When you rest in that quiet place, you begin to sense the light he speaks of—not as an idea, but as something alive within you, steady and unmistakably real.

That quiet radiance is already yours. It shines beneath every anxious thought, beneath every disappointment, beneath even the face you meet in the mirror each morning. You don’t have to hold everything together. You don’t have to become anything other than what you already are. There is something steady and luminous within you, something untouched by age or fear. Trust that quiet center. It has been guiding you all along.

In Defense of My Ridiculous Number of Books

Let me begin with a confession—though anyone who has stepped foot in my home already suspects this: I love books. Not in a casual, “I enjoy reading when I have the time” sort of way, but with the devotion of someone who wakes at an hour most people would consider indecent just to be alone with them. Books are my early-morning conspirators, my steady guides in the long apprenticeship of becoming more fully human. They keep vigil with me before dawn, stacked like loyal elders along my nightstand, perched on window sills, leaning against old cameras and typewriters, holding the room together the way only well-loved objects can.

And yes—I take books everywhere I go. Wherever I travel, at least one book is tucked under my arm, usually two, sometimes three. If you ever see me arriving somewhere early, please don’t mistake this for admirable punctuality. I simply wanted a few extra minutes with a story.

Recently, while drifting through Barnes & Noble, I spotted a book titled something like Reading Addiction. I left it where it was—mostly because I wasn’t quite ready to see myself so plainly described. And, naturally, the thought of going back for it is already tugging at my sleeve.

I wish I were the sort of person whose spiritual depth did not require quite so many volumes. But here I am, an insecure, slightly ridiculous soul who needs a towering pile of books to remind me that wisdom, compassion, humor, and depth still exist in this f&%k-up world.

For me, a book is not merely a “reading device.” A book is an entire sensory world. It’s the faint vanilla warmth of aging paper and the satisfying weight that settles perfectly in the palm. It’s the whisper-soft turn of a page—the sound of a private breeze. It’s the beauty of a carefully chosen typeface, a sturdy binding, the small thrill of a well-made cover that somehow promises, “Come in. There’s something here for you.” A Kindle can be a lifesaver in moments of desperation, but a real book—creased, scuffed, loved into its truest shape—has a soul. Some of mine are falling apart in ways that make me proud, like a pair of favorite shoes that have carried me faithfully for years.

Writers—wise ones and wild ones, saints and sinners, artists and artist-wannabes, mystics and mischief-makers—sit with me on these shelves. They have accompanied me through tragedy and steadied me in moments of peace. Their pages have held my early morning hours, those hidden pockets of quiet before the sun remembers us.

And on days when the news leaves me despairing—overwhelmed by noise, cruelty, or the general unraveling of things—my embarrassingly large library becomes a kind of monk’s cell—spare, sheltering, and steady. Books whisper their soft reminder: Not all is broken—there is still what is luminous, brave, and wise. Press on.

And so I keep stacking them on desks, tucking them under lamps, piling them in corners. I pretend it’s a design choice—an “artfully curated literary clutter”—but the truth is simpler: these friends insist on being close. They insist on being seen. They insist on being held.

As for that book on reading addiction… yes, I’m probably still going to buy it. But that, I promise, is a confession for another day.

Staying Human in the Age of Outrage

Most mornings, my partner Heidi and I begin the day the way so many people do — still half-asleep, scrolling through our phones to see what has exploded overnight. It’s a small confession, and certainly not a spiritual practice I’d recommend to anyone. Within minutes, the world comes rushing in — the headlines from Washington, the endless scroll of social media, the noise, the anger, the heartbreak. It’s astonishing how quickly a single headline can tighten the chest or darken the mood before we’ve even finished our first cup of coffee. And yet, in that swirl of reactivity, something in me also remembers: I can begin differently — not with the news of the world, but with the simple presence of being alive.

Zen master Thích Nhất Hạnh once wrote, “Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes.” Another wisdom person once said, “We are not our thoughts. Similarly, we are not the news we consume. When engaging with current events, try to observe without letting it dictate your emotions.”

In moments of digital overwhelm, these words feel like a lifeline. To pause — even for a breath — is to reclaim our humanity from the feed. Mindfulness doesn’t ask us to turn away from the world’s suffering; it simply asks that we meet it from a place of steadiness rather than reactivity. When I catch myself swept into outrage, I whisper: I am not the news I consume. That single sentence opens a doorway back to presence — to the body, the breath, and the quiet world still here beyond the screen.

Philosopher Elaine Scarry reminds us, “Injuring another person is only possible when we do not fully see or recognize that person.” And she adds, “When we behold the beautiful, we learn to be attentive to the world, and when we are attentive to the world, we notice injustice.”

These words name something essential: injustice grows in the soil of blindness. The constant churn of the news can numb us into abstraction — statistics, polls, slogans — until we forget that behind every headline is a human being. The contemplative gaze asks us to see again, to linger, to behold. To attend to the ordinary — a cup of coffee, a child’s face, the late-day light on a wall — is not to turn away from the world’s pain, but to remember what’s at stake. Every act of true seeing is a quiet refusal to dehumanize.

The contemplative path doesn’t promise escape from the noise. It invites us to meet it differently. When we pause, breathe, and see clearly, we begin to recognize that the madness “out there” and the restlessness “in here” are not separate. The same mind that scrolls and judges can also soften and return. Each breath is a small act of resistance. Each moment of seeing — without naming, without fixing — is a way of staying human in the age of outrage.

So when the next headline burns across your screen, stop. Breathe. Look up. Notice the light falling through the room. Feel your feet on the floor. Remember what is still whole. And whisper quietly: I am not the news I consume. I am the witnessing presence behind it all.

There is an unspeakable secret I keep discovering again and again: a fundamental goodness surrounds us, though we rarely see it. It glimmers in the most ordinary places — a quiet street at sunrise, the glance of a stranger, the rhythm of breath. Wisdom, the old teachers say, announces her presence every dawn, yet we hurry by, half-awake.

Even so, goodness abides — patient, luminous, waiting for our attention. Let us not forget that we were created both one and many, placed here in the midst of this turmoil as awareness, as joy. We are here. I am here. To dwell, even for a moment, in the stillness of that goodness — the radiant center from which all things arise — is enough for today.

The Art of Waiting for the World to Appear

“When we are present, even the smallest thing can reveal the truth of the whole.”    - Chögyam Trungpa

In a world of endless editing, retakes, and curated perfection, the hybrid instant camera feels like an act of quiet rebellion. One click. One image. No retakes, no filters, no chance to fix. When you hold that small print in your hand, waiting for the picture to appear, something subtle happens. You begin to notice the slow unfolding—first a faint outline, then color, then form. And in that waiting, awareness itself develops. You start to see not just the image, but your own mind—its impatience, its delight, its longing for control.

Contemplative photography reminds us that the camera doesn’t just show the world; it shows us to ourselves. The lens always looks both ways. What we notice “out there” is often a reflection of what is stirring within. Every time we raise the camera to our eye, we are also, in some way, gazing into a mirror. Each photograph becomes a subtle self-portrait—an expression of how we meet the moment, how we see and are seen, how our inner landscape shapes what we recognize as beautiful, moving, or real.

What drew your attention in the first place? What did you expect to see? What surprised you? Every image reveals something about the quality of our awareness at that instant—the clarity or confusion, the openness or grasping of the mind behind the lens.

Maybe that’s what the hybrid instant camera teaches best: patience, humility, and trust. To receive rather than take. To watch beauty emerge without control. To meet the world not as a project to complete, but as a partner in wonder. Each photograph becomes a kind of loving-kindness practice—a record of the moment when the world reached out, and we were awake enough to receive it.

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust

So this week, try pausing before you take a picture. Wait until something quietly calls to you—a flicker of light, a leaf trembling in wind, a shadow across your hand. Let it reveal itself before you lift the camera. See if you can receive rather than capture. And as the image develops—whether on paper or screen—notice what’s developing within you. You may discover that every photograph, in the end, is a conversation between your seeing and your being.

A Nobel Prize

“When the Master governs, the people are hardly aware that he exists.
Next best is a leader who is loved.
Next, one who is feared.
The worst is one who is despised.
But of a good leader, who talks little,
When his work is done, his aim fulfilled,
They will say: we did it ourselves.”
— Laozi, Tao Te Ching

According to Laozi, the ancient Chinese philosopher and author of the Tao Te Ching, the greatest leaders are known not for their speeches, but for their quiet steadiness. Their presence settles the room. It doesn’t disturb—it harmonizes. Laozi understood that when leadership is truly aligned with the Tao—the natural way of things—it feels effortless, almost invisible.

There are old stories in China about irrigation systems that nourished entire valleys, sustaining generations. These channels carried life itself—water winding through parched fields, feeding rice paddies, replenishing wells, ensuring that villages could flourish. The systems were so skillfully designed that they seemed almost natural, as if the rivers themselves had chosen their paths. No records were kept of who first imagined or shaped those waterways. No monuments were built to honor the engineers or dreamers who cut the stone and guided the flow. Over time, the names faded, but the rivers remembered. They continued their work—steady, generous, unannounced. The river got the credit. The work was done. The people thrived. The builder’s name was unnecessary.

Laozi would have smiled at that. For him, such nameless service was the truest form of leadership—one that leaves behind nourishment, not noise; flourishing, not fame. It’s worth remembering this in an age that prizes visibility above all else. We live in a time when even leadership is measured in headlines, hashtags, and nominations. When President Trump failed to receive the Nobel Peace Prize he so publicly sought, it wasn’t a failure of recognition—it was a failure of understanding. Laozi would remind us: the moment we begin to chase honor, we lose the quiet power that makes leadership real.

This is Laozi’s idea of leadership—guidance without recognition, presence without ego. It’s not about secrecy or self-erasure; it’s about integrity. It’s the kind of leadership that grows from character, emotional maturity, and inner steadiness. Like the gasoline or battery that powers a car, its function is essential yet unseen. True leaders don’t stand on their tiptoes. They don’t shout or seek applause. They lift others up, share the credit, and move quietly through the world with purpose. In the language of the Tao, such leaders embody power that serves rather than controls.

We live in a time when leadership often feels loud—filled with proclamations, personal brands, campaigns, and marketing. The Tao reminds us that when a president, pastor, or CEO becomes too visible, the people’s attention drifts away from their own wisdom and agency. But when leaders work quietly and consistently—rooted, reliable, and sincere—people can breathe easier. Life unfolds naturally. Like a channel carved through rock, their influence directs the flow without dictating it. The water still moves on its own. The best leaders know this: to lead is to serve the movement, not to own it. They don’t need to shout. Their presence speaks for them.

Perhaps this is the leadership our world longs for—a leadership rooted in stillness, in listening, in trust. Where in your own life might quiet leadership be called for? How might you serve without standing on your tiptoes? What would it mean to let your presence speak—softly, clearly, and enough?

True leadership, Laozi reminds us, is less about control and more about cultivation. It’s the art of creating the conditions where life—human, creative, communal—can thrive on its own. Whether we’re guiding a class, a conversation, a team, or a family, the invitation is the same: to lead by being present, to steady what is unsteady, and to trust the quiet power already flowing through the world.

Where the World Breaks, Beauty Enters

Everywhere we turn, something trembles.
Headlines hum with sorrow.
The air itself feels charged with ache—
the ache of division,
of voices raised,
of hearts pulled thin.

War smolders across the world.
The earth groans beneath our forgetting.
Even our homes—
once places of rest—
feel restless,
edged with fatigue and quiet worry.

And still—
I stand here, whispering
that we must make art.

Not as escape,
but as a way of listening.
As a way of gathering what has been scattered.
The act of creation,
in its simplest form,
is how we begin to mend the torn fabric of being.

When I speak of art,
I mean anything that brings you closer—
the stirring of a pot,
a song hummed half-aloud,
a patch carefully sewn,
a letter written with care,
a photograph that says, I see you.

If you create, you belong here.

Art is not a privilege of the gifted.
It is our first language—
spoken long before words,
through rhythm, color, gesture,
through the hands reaching,
the heart responding.

To make something with care
is to remember yourself whole.
To meet the world with attention
is to heal the quiet places within.

And in this world
that prizes speed and spectacle,
to create something honest—
something tender and human—
is a kind of rebellion.

You need no permission.
Only willingness.
A readiness to see,
to shape,
to offer light into the cracks.

Because sometimes,
where the world breaks—
beauty enters.

Homecoming

Returning after a brief away,
never sweeter—
the familiar waits,
welcoming, sane,
the quiet holds me close.

A fall evening—
gray sky, cool breeze—
again I feel the first knowing:
these rolling hills,
old poplars standing guard,
oak trees, modest homes,
faces I know—
this is my place.

Rain drifts soft and cool,
ragweed and pokeweed line the street.
On the porch steps—
a red-tailed hawk cries,
kee-eeeeeparr—
our wild companion
loosening silence,
and a quiet gladness stirred.

The wind moves the chimes,
a cool song through open windows,
singing freely,
breathing contentment
into every quiet corner
of home.

Subterranean

For decades, I have been guided by a conversation with voices from across the centuries. These honest writers have been my companions, saving me from loneliness by opening worlds of meaning like unexpected doors.

My thirty-three years in higher education revealed an institution increasingly focused on profession and utility. But my own path was drawn by a quieter, more subterranean current. While the institution spoke of outcomes and applications, I found myself listening for a different frequency—the resonant hum of fundamental questions. My work became not the complexification of ideas, but the patient inquiry into how a simple truth, held to the light, could refract into infinite significance. It was a search less for an explanation than for what the poet Robert Lax called “a vision.”

And the astonishing revelation, the vision itself, is this: the deepest reward for such a search is not knowledge or justice, but joy. Likewise, the fruit of kindness and compassion is not recognition or reciprocity, but joy.

After sixty-seven years, the goal is clear. When I fall asleep with the words of the long-gone resting on my chest, I know it was never about expertise. It was always about that elusive, ever-present joy—my most faithful teacher. I am reminded of Mary Oliver’s insistence: “Joy is not made to be a crumb. It is made to be a feast.” And indeed, it has been.

A Contented Life

Some mornings I wake to a heaviness, a kind of weather system that settles over me, muting everything except the reality of its unwelcome presence. It can feel as though joy or contentment has slipped away. And yet, I remind myself: just because I cannot reach that place of ease in the moment does not mean it has disappeared. A contented life does not vanish—it simply waits beyond the passing front.

Like weather, moods shift and move on, often without our consent and sometimes without our noticing. Warm and cold fronts, gentle breezes and sudden hurricanes, each passes through, reshaping the sky of our lives. Here in North Carolina, we know what it is to wait out storms. Contentment, too, abides on the far side of whatever clouds may be rising from the Gulf.

The real practice, perhaps, is to suspend judgment when the storms emerge. So many of our harshest self-criticisms and conditioned responses are born when we are disoriented in the fog or rushing for cover in the rain. We scramble for answers, as though any response might keep a tornado from tearing through our plans again. But no storm—however fierce—lasts forever.

The truth of impermanence assures us of this. The saints and mystics knew it well, and so does the quiet wisdom of the heart. Beneath the turbulence, something steady remains: the possibility of beginning again, of trusting that even our disappointments and false starts are woven into the larger fabric of becoming.

So I breathe and wait. The weather will turn. And when the skies clear, I see that contentment has been here all along—patient, enduring, and ready to shine through.